Same-Sex Violence

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In 2010, Annamarie Cochran was killed by her domestic partner, Cara Rintala [1][2].  Cochran was strangled, beaten, thrown downstairs, and covered in paint to destroy evidence.

The Massachusetts couple (both EMTs) evidently had disputes over money and infidelity.  Despite a tumultuous relationship, they continued to live together until the murder.

Rintala was convicted in 2016 after two mistrials.  She was sentenced to life imprisonment without parole.  In 2019, Rintala’s request for a new trial was denied [3].

Domestic violence within the LGBTQ community is not often addressed.

Prevalence rates are difficult to come by, since heterosexual women are primarily targeted for intimate partner violence screening and intervention [4].  However, LGBTQ rates are believed to be slightly higher than those among heterosexual couples [5].

Best information is, as follows [6]:

  • 43.8% of  lesbians and 61.1% of bisexual women have experienced rape, violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, in comparison with 35% of heterosexual women.
  • 26% of gay men and 37.3% of bisexual men have experienced rape, violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, in comparison with 29% of heterosexual men.
  • only 1 in 4 men in same-sex relationships call police after experiencing near fatal violence.

Researchers attribute these differences to the societal pressures on same-sex couples, a higher risk of prior traumatic experiences on the part of LGBTQ community members, and their difficulty in accessing services.

Biblical View

While the Bible does not condone same-sex relationships (Lev. 18: 22, 20: 13; Rom. 1: 26-27; 1 Cor. 6: 9-10; 1 Tim. 1:10), neither does it condone violence against those who consider themselves members of the LGBTQ community.

The biblical admonition is that Christians walk in love (Eph. 5: 2).

Wives are to submit to their husbands as to the Lord, and husbands love their wives as Christ loves the church (Eph. 5: 22-29).  This presupposes marriage between a man and a woman.  It does not, however, require that anyone submit to abuse.

What is clear from these statistics is that, regardless of sexual orientation, human beings cry out for grace.  The human heart is corrupt (Jer. 17: 9).  We are all sinners in need of a Savior in the Person of Jesus Christ (Eph. 2: 1-7).

[1]  The Mirror, “‘Passionate’ paramedic strangled, thrown downstairs and covered in paint by her wife” by Gail Shortland, 2/5/17,

[2]  The Gazette, “The Annamarie Cochran Rintala many people did not know” by Michael Majchrowicz, 10/12/16,

[3]  Mass Live, “Cara Rintala, convicted in 2010 killing wife in Granby, denied appeal for new trial” by Jeanette DeForge, 12/16/19,

[4]  Springer Link, “Addressing Intimate Partner Violence in Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay, and Transgender Patients” by Kevin Ard and Harvey Makadon, Journal of Internal Medicine, 2011,

[5]  Taylor & Francis Online, “Same-Sex Domestic Violence:  Prevalence, Unique Aspects, and Clinical Implications” by Colleen Stiles-Shields and Richard Carroll, Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 10/10/14,

[6]  National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), “Domestic Violence and the LGBTQ Community”, 6/6/18,


Author: Narrow Path Ministries

Non-denominational, Independent, Bible believing Church

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