Abuse In Relationships!



The purpose of a relationship is to know your partner very well, maintain sexual purity and sharpen each other in preparation for marriage.

When the purpose of a relationship is not known, then abuse is inevitable.

Abuse of a relationship is the misuse of the purpose of a relationship.

Many who are in a relationship today fail to identify and follow the purpose of a relationship, rather they follow what people say or what they feel about how a relationship should be.


Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

We are in a world where people don’t read the Bible and many who read the Bible do not follow what is written there.

Sex or romance is met to only happen between husband and wife not between ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend or fiance and fiancee. That’s how God designed it. Anything thing outside that is relationship abuse.

A relationship is not met for a man to examine all the local government in your body as a lady.

A relationship is not met for sex chats.

A relationship is not met for sending nudes.

A relationship is not met for premarital romance or sex.

You are abusing yourself and your relationship if you do anything like that.

A Brother told me how he raped the fiancee and he did not know what came over him. She later got pregnant and they were both embarrassed in their fellowship.

It’s because he doesn’t know the purpose of a relationship.

A relationship is not met to be staying in a room together when they are not married despite scripture warns you to abstain from all appearances of evil.

A Brother or Sister who asks for premarital sex does not know the purpose of a relationship and such is not ripe for a relationship.

Such persons need sexual purity class not relationship.

A Brother who attempts to rape you does not know the purpose of a relationship. Such deserve nothing but break up.

A sister who attempts to lure you into premarital sex or romance is yet to know the purpose of a relationship.

A partner who cheats while in a relationship with you does not know the purpose of a relationship, such needs self control not relationship.

You cannot abuse the purpose of relationship and your relationship and marriage will not be abused.

You can’t break or abuse God’s law of sexual purity and God will not permit the devil to abuse your your relationship and marriage.

A man who asks you for premarital sex, if you get pregnant, he will deny or probably ask you to commit abortion, and if you lose your womb or die while commiting abortion, he will marry another lady and have children.

As a lady, you must guide your body jealously and be selfish by not allowing any man touch or come into your temple for sex or romance except by marriage.


A Brother explained how his fiancee insulted, embarrass and ridicule him just because he gave account of their relationship to his mentor.

A sister or brother who abuse you verbally in a relationship doesn’t know the purpose of a relationship, such doesn’t need a relationship yet but a class on how to bridle his or her own tongue 😝 .

If you are in a relationship where your partner insult and embarrasses you without any sign of growing up or changing, then it’s time to break up!

Do not tolerate, condone or accept verbal abuse from any partner in a relationship because it would continue in marriage.

If your partner does not value you, there’s a Brother or Sister praying night and day just to be in a relationship with someone like you.

Anyone who stays in verbally abusive relationship is suffering from inferiority complex and low self esteem, the earlier you discover this and walk away, the better.


A Brother who slaps or hit you in a relationship will kill you with beating in marriage.

A sister who jack up your shirt and threaten you to beat her up will be a trouble maker in marriage.

A Brother who threaten to hit, beat or slap you if you repeat an action that’s not sinful will turn you into a punching bag.

Why are you still with him despite he hits you? Money or sex? Your mates are making their own money without the effort of any man. You will not forever be horny in marriage if it’s sex, don’t be fooled!

A sister that Jacks up or hold your shirt in a relationship doesn’t know the purpose of a relationship, such will be physically abusive in marriage.

A friend told me of a lady who canceled her wedding just because the husband-to-be slapped her during their traditional wedding because they had an intense argument.

I salute the courage of the young lady who saved herself from abusive marriage.

Physical abuse is never a mistake in a relationship.

Why don’t you make a mistake of hitting a soldier or fellow men when you have arguments or disagreement?

Holy Spirit will not Lead you to hit your partner.

A spiritual man cannot hit you in a relationship.


It’s called relationship not sponsorship.

It’s called relationship not Father to daughter thing.

I have seen several ladies who say he has not bought me anything or given me money since we started this relationship.

I usually ask such lady, what have you bought him or how much have you given him since you started the relationship?

There’s no rule that says a man must give you money for your hair do, dress and shoulder all your expenses in a relationship when it’s not marriage.

It’s called relationship because both of you are supposed to relate whatever you have and share it together not one sided.

A lady told me that she gave close to 300k to her fiancee and he used the money to marry another lady.

Don’t give any man your money in a relationship except he has passed the TESTS OF TRUST.

A man that loves you will buy you things or give you money willingly without asking because he knows your value and worths.


1. Don’t go into a relationship with a sinner or someone who doesn’t know the purpose of a relationship. A sinner is someone who doesn’t have genuine salvation experience.

2. Have relationship mentor and be accountable.

You should have a relationship mentor who you give the weekly and monthly account of your relationship to.

Both of you can decide to choose a mentor you are accountable to.

If your partner says he or she doesn’t believe in relationship mentor or accountability, then such may be an abuser except if everything is going on well in the relationship.

Most abusive relationship doesn’t have parental or pastoral mentorship.

3. Don’t make your relationship secret.

A relationship like ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend that your parents do not approve of usually end up being abusive.

Carry your physical or spiritual parents along in your relationship and let them be aware of your partner misbehavior or change in behavior so that they can call him or her to order.

4. Attend seminars and conferences together.

Attend relationship and spiritual growth conferences and seminars together so that you can sharpen your inner person.

5. Be Financially Independent.

Don’t be idle.

Make your own money.

Don’t depend on your partner before you buy Airtime and personal expenses.

Stop begging or asking your partner for money.

Avoid unnecessary borrowing of money from your partner.

It’s difficult to abuse someone who is financially stable.

6. Don’t make your partner feel like you can’t do without them.

When your partner realizes that you are desperate, you may become a victim of abuse.

If you are the only one initiating calls and chats then you are acting desperate, and you may be abused.

A relationship built on abuse, the marriage will be abusive, enduring and may not last.

Don’t accept any form of abuse in a relationship.

Develop high self confidence and self esteem.

You are wonderfully and beautifully made.

God’s will for you is not to be in an abusive relationship.

God won’t tempt you with an abusive partner. Don’t be deceived. Abusive partner is not your cross in a relationship. The only cross ➕ Jesus gave you is preaching of the Gospel not abusive partner.

If your relationship is abusive, the only solution is to break up.

You can’t change a man or woman because you are not the Holy Spirit.

Don’t marry him or her thinking such will change. People rarely change in marriage.

Most women and men in abusive marriage today saw it coming in a relationship but they were thinking he or she would change, it’s too late for them now because they are already married.

Even if you divorce due to abuse, the stigma and trauma of divorce can never leave you for life.

It’s better to break up from abusive partner now in a relationship, than to marry and be praying every day.

1 Peter 4:14
If ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you: on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified.

15. But let none of you suffer as a murderer, or as a thief, or as an evildoer, or as a busybody in other men’s matters.

16. Yet if any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God on this behalf.

17. For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God


–Oluwaniyi Aderopo Hezekiah


8 Ways How Goodness Follows Us! (Part-2)

May 14, 2020 hephzibahgarden

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever. Psalms‬ ‭23:6‬

Let me take you straight into the topic of — 8 ways how Goodness follows us. Incase you would like to go through the first part of this series, you can find it here.

5. Goodness follows those who walk uprightly — To be upright means to be honest | righteous. Job was an upright man (Job1:1) and so was David (1 Samuel 29:6; 2 Samuel 22:24). To dwell upon God’s holy hill and abide in His tabernacle, we must be people who speak the truth in our heart and who also walk uprightly. Psalms 15:1,2. Hence, all those who live such a lifestyle, the Lord will not withhold any good thing from coming to them – For the Lord God is a sun and shield: the Lord will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. Psalms‬ ‭84:11‬.

6. Goodness follows those who have acquaintance with Him — To acquaint ourselves with God means to have a life of prayer. When we maintain a steady relationship with God through a life of prayer and praising, the Lord would reveal His secrets and warn us of things beforehand. Job says, Acquaint now thyself with him, and be at peace: thereby good shall come unto thee. Job 22:21.

7. Those who BE the chosen – Many are called, but only a few are Chosen! Blessed is the man whom thou choosest, and causest to approach unto thee, that he may dwell in thy courts: we shall be satisfied with the goodness of thy house, even of thy holy temple. Psalms‬ ‭65:4‬. Let’s be found among those who are Chosen of God.

8. Those who are a king — In the Old Testament, the Priest would anoint a person with oil to proclaim him as king. In the New Testament period, we become kings through the Anointing of the Holy Spirit. When we love righteousness and hate iniquity, the Lord will anoint us with the oil of gladness (referring to be baptised with the Holy Spirit). This was mentioned about Jesus as well. Hebrews 1:8,9. The king shall joy in thy strength, O Lord; and in thy salvation how greatly shall he rejoice! Thou hast given him his heart’s desire, and hast not withholden the request of his lips. Selah. For thou preventest him with the blessings of goodness: thou settest a crown of pure gold on his head. Psalms‬ ‭21:1-3‬.

May the Lord help us! ❤️

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“Simply Reprehensible”: COVID-19 Occasions More Abuse of Christians under Islam

05/14/2020 by Raymond Ibrahim

Gatestone Institute

Reports have appeared in recent weeks indicating that COVID-19 is furnishing a new pretext in the Islamic word to discriminate against and even persecute religious minorities, chiefly Christians.

According to an April 29 report, “in countries such as Ethiopia Christians are denied the resources of the community, which is mainly composed of Muslims. These minorities are excluded from society, making it difficult to provide them with help or support.”   A separate report notes that in Muslim-majority Uzbekistan, Christians “have been denied aid because of their religion.”

Pakistan, as usual, offers several examples.  According to a March 30 report:

A Karachi [based] NGO has denied [COVID-19 related] food aid to poor Hindus and Christians, who like Muslims are suffering from coronavirus…. The Saylani Welfare International Trust has been operating in the Korangi area since 1999, handing out aid and meals to homeless people and seasonal workers. Two days ago, the welfare organisation refused to give ration cards to non-Muslims, saying that only Muslims are entitled to them. The reason for this is that Zakat, Islamic alms giving (one of Islam’s five pillars), is reserved for Muslims. The Christian man said he begged for food to no avail. Farooq Masih, a 54-year-old Christian in Korangi, said that last Saturday, Abid Qadri, a member of Saylani Welfare, with other NGO members, handed out food cards in his area. But, when they got to Christian homes, they just moved on.

“A few days back there was an announcement made through a mosque’s loud speaker in the Sher-Shah neighborhood of Lahore inviting citizens to collect the government’s announced foodstuffs,” a pastor explained concerning another similar incident in Pakistan. “When Christians reached the distribution point and presented their national identity cards, they were asked by staffers to get out of the line claiming the foodstuff was only for Muslim citizens.” This same pastor received numerous phone calls from his flock, all of whom experienced the same denial. “Christians often face religious hatred and discrimination,” a Christian woman, aged 50, said of her experience. “However, we never thought of this biased behavior by the majority people at this critical time of COVID-19.”

Others are using this pandemic to win converts to Islam.  According to a May 8 report, “an Islamic cleric claims his organization is using COVID-19 food aid to convert non-Muslims to Islam.”  Speaking on Pakistani television, the cleric boasted of how when a destitute Christian man came for aid, the “staff of the organization offered him conversion against food which he accepted.”  The man was subsequently renamed Muhammad Ramadan, signifying his conversion had occurred during the holy month.  According to the cleric, Muhammad is now fasting (which is ironic considering hunger is what prompted him to convert in the first place).

The issue in Pakistan is apparently so bad that on April 13, the U.S. Commission on International Religious Freedom (USIRF) denounced its discriminatory and abusive measures as “simply reprehensible,”adding:

As COVID-19 continues to spread, vulnerable communities within Pakistan are fighting hunger and to keep their families safe and healthy.  Food aid must not be denied because of one’s faith. We urge the Pakistani government to ensure that food aid from distributing organizations is shared equally with Hindus, Christians, and other religions minorities.

While “reprehensible,” Pakistan’s conduct towards its non-Muslim minorities is certainly consistent.  The USCIRF’s own 2019 Annual Report notes that Christians and Hindus in Pakistan “face continued threats to their security and are subject to various forms of harassment and social exclusion.”

Among other “uncharitable” acts connected to COVID-19 in Pakistan, a Christian man was tortured to death for “defiling” a Muslim well; and, after another Christian man asked his employer if he could leave early to attend church, he was told to “clean our toilets [first] and take our germs to your church so that they can suffer”—and then given a sound beating.

At the other end of the Muslim world, in “Shariah-governed areas” of Nigeria, “the government is discriminating against Christians,” also in the context of COVID-19, said an April 17 report. Millions of Christians living in  northern Nigeria’s Kaduna State, “report they get six times smaller rations from the state than Muslim families.  Believers we talked to shared that a Christian family of four receives a grossly inadequate ration of a single packet of noodles and one small plate of uncooked rice.”

The same report highlighted how “hundreds of thousands of believers all throughout sub-Saharan Africa … are not only persecuted for their decision to follow Jesus but are now doubly vulnerable to the impact of a global pandemic”:

Specifically, four of the five most virus-vulnerable countries—the Democratic Republic of the Congo, Nigeria, Sudan and Cameroon—also count among the places in sub-Saharan Africa where life is hardest for Christians…  For Christians who are already persecuted, the pandemic gives way to even more ways believers can be discriminated against, exploited and attacked for their faith.

“We are facing persecution because of our faith and we are also facing a global pandemic,” Rev. John Joseph Hayab, a pastor in Nigeria explained. “We run away from our persecution … or we run away from the global sickness that we are facing. We have a double problem.”

“We lie down at night, not knowing if we’ll wake,” another pastor said concerning the ongoing terror attacks, particularly by Fulani Muslim herdsmen, who, if anything, have only increased their deadly raids on Christian villages, thereby compromising their immune system with more stress and trauma. “In the midst of this coronavirus challenges and situation, the attacks on Christians have not stopped,” he said.

The situation for sub-Saharan Christians is further exacerbated by the fact that “[s]pecific targeting by Islamic radical groups like Boko Haram, ISIS, Fulani militants and the Allied Democratic Forces (ADF) across the region has displaced many thousands of Christians.”  Such Christians are now living in crowded and hard to reach refugee camps where they are “suffer[ing] intensely without water, sanitation and hygiene,” making them extra susceptible to contracting the deadly virus.

“We are only at the dawn of the unfolding of this pandemic in this part of Africa,” a human rights observer said in words that apply to Christians all throughout the Muslim world:  “There are many causes for concern for Christian minorities, like the economic impact of continued violence against Christians amid lockdowns, marginalization of Christians, especially [converts], and Christians being blamed to have caused the virus.”

In other words, at a time when COVID-19 is showing the best of people—countless doctors, nurses, health care providers, philanthropist institutions and churches in America have stepped up beyond the call of duty, and certainly without consideration for things like race or religion—in the Muslim world COVID-19 has merely occasioned more of the usual: hate for and persecution of contemptible “infidels,” particularly Christians.

“Simply Reprehensible”: COVID-19 Occasions More Abuse of Christians under Islam

VIDEO Jesus ‘Found Me in My Dirt and Pulled Me Out,’ Justin Bieber Says

Michael Foust | ChristianHeadlines.com Contributor |  February 18, 2020

Jesus 'Found Me in My Dirt and Pulled Me Out,' Justin Bieber Says

Singer Justin Bieber in a new interview credits his Christian faith for saving him from self-destruction, saying he’s “grateful” to have friends in his life who live for Jesus.

Bieber, who recently released a new album, Changestold Apple Music’s Zane Lowe his faith saved him from darkness and transformed the way he views life.

“I was just living in this shame, living in all this sort of stuff in my past and I wasn’t able to move on,” he said. “… [Now] the way I look at my relationship with God and with Jesus is I’m not trying to earn God’s love by doing good things. God has already loved me for who I am, before I did anything to earn and deserve it. It’s a free gift by accepting Jesus and just giving your life to Him.

“And what He did is the gift – the forgiveness is the thing that we look at and, you know, ‘I’m going to worship You, God, because You gave me something so good.’ And so you live that life of like, ‘I don’t want to cheat on my wife, not because it’s the right thing to do but because I don’t want to hurt her.’ See the difference there?”

Asked by Lowe if he “was on a path of self-destruction” without Christ, Bieber said he was.

“Oh, for sure. Yeah, for sure, 100 percent. Yeah. 100 percent,” a pensive Bieber answered. “It would have been – it was bad. … I don’t know if I’d be alive for sure. It was dark, really dark. So I’m very grateful to have influences in my life that have played a huge part in me seeing their relationship with Jesus, and their relationship with their wives, and their relationship with their kids, and saying, ‘That’s what I want.’ [I’m] striving after that.”

Previously, he said, “I had really bad examples of Christians in my life, who would say one thing and do another. They were my direct example of who Jesus was.”

His faith began growing when “I really just looked at the character of who Jesus really was.”

Jesus, Bieber said, “found me in my dirt and pulled me out.”

“I want to definitely tell my story so that if that resonates to anybody, they can hopefully learn from it,” he said.

Bieber married model Hailey Baldwin in 2018. He told Lowe she’s “the best wife in the world.” Changes, he said, was inspired by her.

“She supports me through so much. I’m really honored to be her husband. … This is an album I wrote in the first year of our marriage, so it’s so fresh,” he said. “There’s so much more to learn about commitment, and building trust, and foundation. I’m looking forward to continuing to build and make music that’s going to reflect that.”


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Video courtesy: Justin Bieber

Michael Foust has covered the intersection of faith and news for 20 years. His stories have appeared in Baptist Press, Christianity TodayThe Christian PostThe Leaf-Chroniclethe Toronto Star and the Knoxville News-Sentinel.


What Being Carnal Means

By Grey Laurie
 For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
—Romans 8:6

by Greg LaurieWhen you come to Christ, there’s an initial surprise. There are a lot of things you didn’t know. You realize you’re not supposed to do certain things anymore, while you’re supposed do other things instead.

It’s an entirely new way of thinking and living. Everything changes.

You also discover that you’re in a battle, because the Christian life is not a playground; it’s a battleground. Conversion makes your heart a battlefield.

But then there are those who have known the Lord for a while and have stayed the same way. The Bible describes this kind of Christian as carnal. The term originates from the Greek word sarkikos, which means “fleshly.”

To be carnal is to live in a state of arrested spiritual development. The apostle Paul used this word when he wrote to the believers in Corinth, saying, “For you are still carnal. For where there are envy, strife, and divisions among you, are you not carnal and behaving like mere men?” (1 Corinthians 3:3 NKJV).

The good news is that we don’t have to be carnal if we don’t want to. If this is a description of you, if you feel a little like a spiritual baby and realize that you should know more and be doing more, you don’t have to stay that way.

Every believer will have moments of carnality. Even Paul described this kind of spiritual struggle in his life: “I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. . . . Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord” (Romans 7:21, 24–25 NLT).

We’ll have moments of compromise, no doubt. But we don’t want to be carnal Christians.

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The power of integrity and taking a stand

Greg Laurie contrasts behavior of Moses with brother Aaron

Awhile back I came across an interesting headline in Forbes magazine: “Success Will Come and Go, but Integrity Is Forever.” The article pointed out that building integrity takes years, but it only takes seconds to lose. How true.

Billionaire Warren Buffett says that when you’re looking for someone to hire, you should look for three qualities: integrity, intelligence and energy. Then he adds, “But the most important is integrity, because if they don’t have that, the other two qualities, intelligence and energy, are going to kill you.”

Moses had integrity. The Bible describes him as “Moses the man of God” (Deuteronomy 33:1 NKJV). And when Moses the man of God temporarily left the scene, it was complete chaos. He left his brother, Aaron, in charge of the Israelites while he went up to Mount Sinai to receive the commandments.

But while Moses was away, the people went to Aaron and basically said, “Hey, you know what? We need something we can worship.”

So Aaron told them, “Take the gold rings from the ears of your wives and sons and daughters, and bring them to me” (Exodus 32:2 NLT). Then Aaron took all of the gold, melted it, and formed it into the shape of a calf.

When the people saw it, they said, “O Israel, these are the gods who brought you out of the land of Egypt!” (verse 8 NLT).

Meanwhile, Moses was up on the mountain. And when he came down and saw what they were doing, he said to Aaron, “What did these people do to you to make you bring such terrible sin upon them?” (verse 21 NLT).

So why were the people worshiping a golden calf? They came from Egypt, and Egypt essentially was idol central. They had all kinds of images they worshiped, and the people were used to this sort of thing. So they reverted to it.

We see from this story that one man, Moses, lived a godly life and influenced millions of people. On the other hand, one man, Aaron, lived a compromised life and had a horrible influence on others.

Not only that, but Aaron lied. He said to Moses, “You yourself know how evil these people are. They said to me, ‘Make us gods who will lead us. We don’t know what happened to this fellow Moses, who brought us here from the land of Egypt.’ So I told them, ‘Whoever has gold jewelry, take it off.’ When they brought it to me, I simply threw it into the fire – and out came this calf!” (verses 22–24 NLT).

George Washington said that it’s better to offer no excuse than a bad one.

Aaron initiated this. He was responsible, but he didn’t take responsibility for his actions. It was on his watch that he helped the people commit idolatry. He should have stopped them cold and refused.

And to make matters worse, he wrapped it in religious jargon to do away with the guilt. He said, “Tomorrow will be a festival to the Lord!” (verse 5 NLT).

This still happens. People will make sure they carry out a token spiritual action like giving thanks before a meal, but then they’ll go commit a gross sin. God doesn’t want to hear their grace at mealtime. Rather, God wants them to repent.

We find a fascinating passage in the Old Testament book of Amos, where God says, “Away with your noisy hymns of praise! I will not listen to the music of your harps. Instead, I want to see a mighty flood of justice, an endless river of righteous living” (5:23 NLT).

Did you know there can come a point when you’re singing praises to the Lord and God effectively says, “Stop already! I don’t want to hear it. Your lifestyle contradicts what you’re singing. What you’re doing is offensive to me”?

That’s what was happening when the Israelites presented a burnt offering and worshiped the golden calf. God was saying, “I don’t want your burnt offering. I don’t want you to worship false gods. I want you to love me with all your heart.”

What a contrast Moses and Aaron were. Moses set an example that the people could follow, while Aaron set a bad example. Moses was known for his decisiveness, conviction and doing what was right. Aaron, on the other hand, was known for his indecisiveness, weak will and desire to fit in.

You see, Aaron didn’t want to offend anyone. In the same way, sometimes we’re afraid to make a stand because we don’t want to offend.

Don’t do that. Make a stand. Do what is right, not what is easy. In fact, sometimes when you do what is right, it’s very hard.

A man or woman of integrity does the right thing whether or not someone is watching. When Aaron was with Moses, he was “godly.” And when he wasn’t with Moses, he was pretty ungodly. He gave in, and he led the people in their sin.

Sometimes we’re the same way. When we’re around strong believers, we’re strong – kind of. But the moment we’re away from them, we crumble.

Find strong Christians to be around. And in time, you need to be that strong believer yourself.

The highest compliment we can pay is to describe someone as a man or woman of God. May that be said of us, not just by casual acquaintances, but by our family and close friends, by those who know us well.

“I am only one, but I am one,” said Edward Everett Hale. “I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.”

Make your stand for what is right, and God will bless you for it.


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How To Rest In Peace Daily?

February 7, 2020 hepsibahgarden

No person can rest in peace after death if that person isn’t resting in peace daily, when he/she is alive. These days it’s such a trend, that when someone passes away, people are just RIP-ing away. Sad to say, most don’t mean when they say it; and that becomes just another tweet or post for their social media.

Peace is not gazing into an ocean or a landscape. You feel good, that’s not peace. Staying quiet or “keeping calm” isn’t the answer. One aspect of a person full of God’s peace is, he or she is an ambassador of God’s Word. Wherever they go they carry the good news of the gospel of peace.

Did you know a Christian soldier always walks in peace? If you have the peace of God in you, it is obvious you will tell everyone you can about God’s peace in you – Jesus! Who is it that wears the sandals of peace? Soldiers wear the sandals of peace. You are a soldier in God’s army. Peace is full of action. Action that draws people to Christ and encourages others to prepare for the coming of the Lord.

God has given us sandals of peace so we can carry the gospel wherever we go. We are soldiers who carry the good news to others. We are expected to be the peacemakers by uniting people within themselves. Why are people lost? Because they are divided inside. And the peacemaking soldier of Jesus is aware of the state of the heart of mankind. Believers burdened for perishing souls spend quality time in prayer and sharing the Word.

Arise and Shine for the glory of God. Let Jesus rule your heart, the captain of our souls. While we walk with Him, when He appears, we will fly to be with Him forever. Amen!

And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; Ephesians‬ ‭6:15

Be blessed 💕


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She’s Interested and He’s Not Pursuing

What’s up with all the godly Christian men not making a move?

by Godinterest

Houston, we have a problem. It’s a problem that will require all of our effort, courage, confidence and creativity to solve.

Christianity is the largest religion in the world, claiming 2.2 billion of the world’s 6.9 billion people, as of last year and dating is a big deal for most young Christians. However, ask any young woman what the Christian dating scene is like these days.

“Christian men … ugh.”  Grim. Impossible. Slim pickings they’ll  say.

Young Christian men simply won’t commit, they’ll  say and if you’re lucky they’ll  call once — never to be heard from again.

And the churchgoing men who are available? Well, there’s a reason they’re single.

“Usually, he respects or admires the godly young woman (or, other people in his Church think he should admire her more), and yet he’s not physically attracted to her. She’s not his “type,” he says.”

So why are all the single Christian ladies having trouble finding single Christian guys for companionship and romance?  A plethora of Christian dating websites, books, blogs, advice columns, and magazine articles have surfaced in the last few years, attempting to give Christian young women some helpful tips for snagging a godly man and achieving that much-desired state of wedded bliss.

  • Date for at least a year.
  • Don’t kiss before you’re married.
  • Be careful how much time you spend together.
  • Date a bunch of people before getting serious.
  • Don’t unless you are ready to move in the direction of marriage.

It’s not terrible advice– waiting until marriage takes work. But here’s the thing: Relationships take work.  However, while most Chrisitan ladies have internal regulations in the form of our Spirit inspired convictions and knowledge of the Bible, it does not seem to be enough?

Could it be that we screened all the godly young men out of church as boys?  

Probably not entirely, as according to Mark Regenerus, a sociology professor at the University of Texas, young single women in the church outnumber young single men by a three-to-two ratio.

That’s right ladies, you’re not imagining it: there’s a severe shortage of single men in the church. Not just here in the U.S., but also around the world.

“There are almost no men in my country who are following Christ. And French men will not marry a woman whose faith in Jesus is so strong. She is a leper in their eyes.” –  Christian woman from France

A young godly man knows he’s a catch — particularly if he’s dedicated to his faith, good looking and works out and there are hardly any other man is his Church. With each week that passes, he’s presented with a congregation full of single women. Most haven’t been on a date in a while. He has his pick of the bunch.

There’s even a joke about the gender imbalance. It goes like this:

“Men in the church are like parking spaces. All the good ones are either already taken, or they’re handicapped.”

Furthermore, it has been confirmed that the supply of young women grows with each passing year.

So whats the solution?

God Will Orchestrate the Love Story

Do you find yourself becoming resentful that God is withholding something from you?

  • Still waiting to find the man of your dreams
  • Your greatest desire is to have a baby
  • You want to experience the joy of being “equally yoked” with a godly husband

Desperation is dangerous because it focuses on self: What I want. What I must have. What I cannot live without. Firstly,  if and when the time comes for you to be married, God will orchestrate the love story. But in the meantime, your focus is to be on serving God and pouring your life out for God, not on getting serious about getting married. The timing is up to God, not you.

Singled Out in Church

Secondly, research shows that single men are more likely to attend churches that fit the following profile:

  • Large
  • Headed by a male pastor who’s bold and outspoken
  • Offers intentional male discipleship
  • Worship service is done in under 90 minutes

Apart from salvation, there is perhaps a way that the concept “God helps those who help themselves” is correct. We’re not suggesting you switch churches over this issue. It probably wouldn’t hurt to visit another church once in awhile — especially if your church offers nothing for singles.

Also remember that there are actually some Christ-men out there who are praying and hoping for a set-apart young woman — one who is not following after the trends of the culture, or who are not wallowing around in discontentment or on the constant prowl for a guy.

Any pastors who are reading, have you ever stopped to listen, really listen, to the women in your church about how they feel they are treated or perceived?


4 Characteristics Of God’s People!

February 6, 2020 hepsibahgarden

Wherefore say unto the children of Israel, I am the Lord, and I will bring you out from under the burdens of the Egyptians, and I will rid you out of their bondage, and I will redeem you with a stretched out arm, and with great judgments: Exodus‬ ‭6:6

A background about the Israelites — According to God’s unchanging promise to Abraham that He would bless him and his generation and make him great, through Issac (Abraham’s son) and Jacob (Abraham’s grandson) God did fulfil His promise. Through Jacob’s 12 sons the tribe of the Israelites came into being and were a group of people chosen by God to be His own.

Then we see Jacob’s son Joseph going on to become the ruler of Egypt under the leadership of Pharoah and it was during his time that the children of Israel moved to Egypt because of a terrible famine. When Joseph died another Pharoah unknown to the Israelites came into power. He did not like the Israelites because firstly, they weren’t the authentic inhabitants of Egypt and secondly because the Israelites were much stronger than the Egyptians. So, the new Pharoah forced the Israelites into hard labour and that’s how they became slaves of the Egyptians.

Why did God bring them out of Egypt?

He brought the Israelites out of Egypt so that they would be His people and God would be their God. And I will take you to me for a people, and I will be to you a God: and ye shall know that I am the Lord your God, which bringeth you out from under the burdens of the Egyptians. Exodus‬ ‭6:7‬

How does God desire His people to be?

1. Peculiar Treasure – God chose the Israelites to be a peculiar treasure unto Him (Exodus 19:5) but sadly they rejected God because of unbelief and walked out of His ways. Instead of them, God chose us the Gentiles to be His peculiar treasure and He wants us to remain in this way. Romans 9:25.

2. Peculiar People – God desires His people to be peculiar people because He wants them to walk by faith and not by sight — their walk/lifestyle is out of the ordinary. For thou art an holy people unto the Lord thy God, and the Lord hath chosen thee to be a peculiar people unto himself, above all the nations that are upon the earth. Deuteronomy‬ ‭14:2‬

3. Special People – They are special to the Lord because their food, clothing, conversations, walk of life etc. everything is special to Him. For thou art an holy people unto the Lord thy God: the Lord thy God hath chosen thee to be a special people unto himself, above all people that are upon the face of the earth. Deuteronomy‬ ‭7:6‬. And ye shall serve the Lord your God, and he shall bless thy bread, and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee. Exodus‬ ‭23:25‬

4. Happy People – God desires us to be happy people because every belong to Him – to theGod Most High. Happy art thou, O Israel: who is like unto thee, O people saved by the Lord, the shield of thy help, and who is the sword of thy excellency! and thine enemies shall be found liars unto thee; and thou shalt tread upon their high places. Deuteronomy‬ ‭33:29‬

Be blessed 💕


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Why Wear The Armour Of God? Part-1

February 10, 2020 hepsibahgarden

No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is of me, saith the Lord. Isaiah‬ ‭54:17‬

In our lives we will always have weapons formed against us by the Old serpent/the devil. Do you know why? One time before falling, the devil (an Angel then) had desired that place for himself, however, because pride entered his heart God cast him out from heaven and he lost everything. Therefore he always keeps making weapons against us to stop us from getting our inheritance. To fight the devil we should be armoured with the Armour of God at all times!


1. To take revenge against all disobedience – 2 Coriander 10:6. In the Eden Garden, the devil used this weapon of disobedience against Adam and Eve and caused them to sin against God. Thus, by wearing the Amour of God daily, we can revenge any craftiness the evil one brings against us.

2. So that our Faith and Good Conscience is not ruined – The enemy uses the weapon of rejecting our good conscience so that our Faith breaks down. 1 Timothy 1:18,19. God desires that we uphold a pure conscience in our mind because that’s where the mystery of faith is preserved.

3. To endure hardships as a good soldier of JesusA fighter who is committed towards his work won’t bother about the track/ways taken to fight the opponent because he has a mindset of winning. The enemy will place mines on our way so that we don’t press forward. But by depending solely on God’s Grace we can win against him. 2 Timothy 2:1,3.

4. To do the will of God – In this aspect many of us fail because we end up doing our own will. By not doing the will of God, we cannot be worthy to receive the place God is preparing for us. Only by having a mind of suffering can one do the will of God, which will keep us away from sin.


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